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Answer for question 4495.

How do you define "true love"? Have you ever been in love? If you're currently with someone you love, how's the relationship going?
Ah...true love. I'm not sure I'm the right person to define it. I know love when I feel it, though! I've been in love at least twice...with a bunch of crushes thrown in there to fill all the gaps.

Both of the time I've been seriously in love have turned out pretty badly. No wait I guess I'd say I've been in love three times, and they all had a sad ending, but the first one had a further part of the story that was happy. I reconnected with my first love, and we became very fond friends. I haven't talked to him in a while. I need to write him. It's such a precious thing.

It's a very mystifying thing that the person you're attracted to might not actually be good for you. Or if they're good for you now, they might not be down the road. Well, I guess that last one isn't that surprising, but it's so painful when it happens.

And when someone surprises you with horrible behavior after years of loving them...it's so hard to come to grips with that.

I still believe in love after all that, though.

And I want to add that I think it's okay to be mystified by love and how it works. You don't have to understand something completely to participate in it.

And this made me really sad. Writing all of this.

Comments

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maneleleina01
Aug. 31st, 2015 08:19 am (UTC)
well..... i am moved
i really can't talk about love because i never loved before, i know its weird i am 25 this year and a working woman but really i liked some guys but just i cant go beyond "LIKE" . so i cant say i know what true love is but i think it's a good thing and even if it turnes bad at the end with time it'll be a precious memory
kokiden
Sep. 15th, 2015 10:21 pm (UTC)
I do think it's a unique experience that's worth having, but I can't help envying you! I imagine you have your life and that is enough and you're not always pining after a man! :D
maneleleina01
Sep. 16th, 2015 08:20 am (UTC)
well you nailed it i live fore myself only, but you can't help but wanting to love......paradox
mierten
Aug. 31st, 2015 01:56 pm (UTC)
It sounds like it is time to find the lyrics and sing along with the Eagles song "Wasted Time"
There will be a better fit. It just takes time.
"Its like I'm sitting in this loveseat built for two and I'm waiting for Chisato to sit on the other side but he won't site down for me so I try to get someone else to sit there -- but it just never feels right." - Yatteraneeze
You are on your own love seat waiting to find whom the right person is to be sitting next to you.
-M
kokiden
Sep. 15th, 2015 10:21 pm (UTC)
What a lovely thought! I'll imagine my love seat, that will help pass the time :D :D :D

I just reread Yateranazee! High give, girl!
domi75
Aug. 31st, 2015 04:36 pm (UTC)
appreciate how you shared it! no wonder you are so sad about... i think it is better to love than not love at all! though all bad ending... this makes me human, and makes me to do better... though hardship and all shits...
kokiden
Sep. 15th, 2015 10:22 pm (UTC)
Ah what a wonderful perspective. To say "This makes me human" rather than "I'm a reject!" :D Yes, I think you must be right. And another thing...at least I know I can love! It would be awful to sit here wondering if I was even capable of that...

Cheers, love!
shi_en_ta
Sep. 9th, 2015 08:39 pm (UTC)
cheer up girl, i have no luck in love too,,, hope u find the mr. right soon,dear :)
kokiden
Sep. 15th, 2015 10:23 pm (UTC)
Thanks! Same to you! Until then we'll keep dreaming and fighting!
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